Fate can be a funny thing.
Anyone who has read my political rants knows what a hardline liberal I can be. I can shout and argue and fight with the best of them. I lean so far left I’m practically falling over.
So what comes my way in the form of the sweetest, most considerate, compassion man I’ve met. A Republican. A *shudders* birther.
I can’t begin to tell you how adorable he is in so many ways. He can be so sweet and kind and caring, so understanding of me and my position, so open and honest and willing to talk through any disagreement we might have. He listens, he opens up, he is willing to make an effort in ways I’m used to getting shut out of.
And yet..
There are things about both of us that makes the other cringe at times. There are things he says that make me fake a smile and think about my laundry to avoid a fight. There are times when I can’t hold back a rant and I go off because that’s who I am. And he listens, calmly, states his case, calmly, and tells me at the end that my political beliefs aren’t that important to him. He likes me for me, not for how I vote.
Sometimes I wonder who is this man and why on earth am I dating him. Sometimes I can’t believe we can get along so well on so many things. Sometimes I hold my breath and wait for the fallout that is sure to come. We’re oil and water, swirling around each other in a cosmic puddle. What a weird relationship I’ve gotten myself into.
The man who takes care of me when I’m down, who listens to me when I’m sad, who helps me when I’m in need is a Republican. I don’t know why, or even how this works. But for now it does. Fate has a lot of explaining to do.
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john
on Mar 8th, 2011
@ 8:28 AM:
That’s a terrible picture of me….doesn’t adequately capture my conservative know-it-all-isim…
;p
Jana
on Mar 8th, 2011
@ 10:25 AM:
My husband and I are complete opposites. But someone told me once that it works because our two pieces fit like a puzzle. If the two pieces look alike, they don’t fit together. I’m glad you found someone who is so kind and caring!
Blessings!
TwinCitiesLynn
on Mar 8th, 2011
@ 9:52 PM:
Maybe fate realized that what you needed right now was exactly opposite of what you thought / have been used to. Enjoy the differences, it’s how you treat each other that matters, and from what I have read so far, no problems there.
Sunday
@ sundaykoffron
on Mar 9th, 2011
@ 12:53 AM:
I blame it on my Libra nature but I am always looking for balance, the yin and yang. Maybe that is what is working for you.
I remember when I met my husband many years ago, telling a friend, that he was everything I was never looking for, or knew I wanted in a man.
I am glad you are ok today.
Sunday´s last blog ..Attachment- How Disordered Is It Really
Amber
@ AmberStrocel
on Mar 12th, 2011
@ 5:05 PM:
When I first started dating my husband, we were both very young. And we had quite different views at the time. But over the years we’ve grown together in many ways. In other ways, we haven’t. But the constant debating has really helped me clarify my own position and strengthen my arguments, so it’s not all bad.
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